One of the first questions what do you do when you are overwhelmed and don’t know what to do with your life??? The first suggestion was that you focus on answering the question who am I, rather than, what should I do? Often 20-somethings feel the pressure to have it all figured out, but the truth is, we are just starting to discover who we really are in our twenties.
When we are growing up, adults always seem to ask us what we want to be when we get older. This is why when we hit our twenties, not only do we think we should know the answer to that question by now, but we think that our career defines who we are. And if you don’t like your career, which is your sense of identity, then that makes for one unhappy confused person.
According to Some “Who we are is much deeper than our career. It is our qualities that make us who we are, not the job or title we have. Jobs can change, but what is constant is our core. We are attached to external things and our happiness is often misplaced outside of us. Your career is not the cause of your unhappiness. The way we are with ourselves is what determines our happiness”. These are some powerful words! Our happiness is not, and never was, outside of us. We must look within to find who we are and what makes us happy. When you look within, outside circumstances that you have no control over cannot shake your deep sense of completeness and peace.
That being said, the many changes that occur and life decisions to be made in our twenties can often bring up a lot of anxiety and worry about the future and questions of whether or not we have done something “right”. When this thing asked how you can overcome that worry The answer is, “The only way to overcome worry is to be in the present moment. We tend to project the worse case scenerio but the truth is, you really have no way to predict the future. If you are going to think about the future, at least project positive thoughts! We sometimes try to be scientists of our own life and figure it all out, when what we really need to do is remove our expectations and stay present.”
According to Christine Hassler “When expectations rule our lives, we set ourselves up for disappointment and judge ourselves harshly.” Releasing our expectations and judgements towards ourself is something that will open us up to feel and listen to our inner guidance, which is always on our side.
Our twenties are about discovery! Relax more and judge yourself less. It is stated, ”Know that you are exactly where you need to be! You can’t mess up your destiny. Release the pressure you put on yourself and accept where you are right now. Say this mantra every morning: Im am exactly where I need to be, gaining and learning all that I can“.
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